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Why I Love Football

The superbowl just happened and it made me think that I've never really explained to anyone my love of football. 

I have some friends that will get it. They are football fans as well but then I have others who have no idea how on a Sunday from September until February I can't be bothered to see them. Even my boyfriend thinks I'm crazy sometimes. 

It's quite simple. To me, if baseball is America's pastime, then football is its present, it's America's sport through and through. 

Think about it, over 110 million people watched this week's Superbowl and that doesn't take into account all the people at parties or bars watching it together. To say that football is just that, football...is absurd (here's looking at you Meryl). 

In light of my New England Patriots winning 5 Superbowls, I'm going to lost 5 reasons why I love the sport so much. 

1.) For one, it brings people together. It doesn't matter what side of the 'field' you're on. People come together, with their jerseys, food and hats and they watch the game. It's like a holiday in this country, I actually know people (myself included) who wish the Monday after the superbowl WAS a holiday. How many events can you think of where people come together like this? Not many. 

2.) It's also patriotic. Football gets people through the hard times. In 2001 after the 9/11 attacks people looked to football. They looked for these athletes to bring back normality in a time of crisis and they did just that. While players and coaches did that, they were also determined to provide acknowledgement of 9/11, and  with our military servicemen and women. 

3) Some will say it's just a game. But football brings men together for one goal, they work together to achieve that goal, they lift each other up, they provide this inescapable pride for their fans. They show how to work as a team against all odds.  I've gone to football, hockey and baseball games before. Nothing beats football. Complete strangers find a comaridty with you just because you're there. 

4.) And that's another thing. Football is an ice breaker. Last week I was in an awkward conversation with a man waiting for the bus. He had a NY Giants hat on so I switched subjects, brought football up and that awkward conversation changed to the fact that I was a Patriots fan. I said I was going to wear my hat if they won to work and he said 'forget the critics you wear that hat proud in NY'. Isn't that a life lesson? Forget the critics? Be proud of who you are rooting for? Be yourself whenever possible no matter where you are? Why yes, yes it is. Also-- I don't know any other topics out there that can 'break the ice'. 

5.) Last but not least, almost everyone will have their own personal reason for watching football. It will probably be that they grew up with it, that their parents like it or they became a fan through a significant other. Maybe they used to play football and love to see the athleticism of the players. For me, it all starts with my family. My family are fans and it brought me closer to them. 

I'll admit, it can be frustrating (sometimes I can't even watch) but it's surreal to be with 20,000 people jumping up and down at once, it's surreal when you and your friends are jumping up and down in your living room. Football can leave you speechless, having you screaming all at the same time and for that, in the end it's worth it...otherwise we wouldn't keep coming back for more.

Still Alice

I've wanted to read this novel for awhile, but I was going through a difficult time and didn't think a book that I thought would be depressing was a good choice. So it had been on the back burner for the past year....literally a year. It's been on my bookshelf screaming, read me! read me! Well, I finally did, near the holidays too (what was I thinking?).




The story starts with Alice, the ever energetic and highly intelligent cognitive psychology professor at Harvard University. It's a typical day, a busy career woman running around the house with her husband getting ready for work, she forgets little things on the way but it means nothing to her, she's rushing, just getting back from a business trip and overwhelmed. As the book progresses, Alice starts to realize that the memory loss she's experiencing doesn't seem normal (ie: forgetting her way home when she goes out for a jog). Finally, at the age of 50, Alice is diagnosed with early on-set Alzheimer's disease. From that moment on, her life and her family's life is drastically different. She's not sure what to do, she's still young! She wants to keep working! She still has such a life to live! She was about to take a sabbatical with her husband and travel! Her kids are thinking of having kids! What is she going to do? All of these emotions are portrayed at different times throughout the novel, but Alice keeps a calmness to her even when she feels like her world keeps getting worse.

The story progresses through every stage that a family goes through when a loved one is diagnosed with a disease, especially one that effects the mind. Alice coping with losing her memory, while trying to still be the person she was, becoming more confused as the days go on. Her husband in denial that the person he loved and married can't even remember him all the time, and her children. Her children not only have to deal with her mother deteriorating but also the very good possibility that they too could carry the gene and end up with the same disease that is changing their mother. While all this is going on, they are still trying to live as normally as possible, which is what everyone does. They look for normality even when it might not be there, they start to appreciate what they have/had and try to work through it altogether......

Little back story on my experience with Alzheimer's and Dementia: 

1.) I know what it's like to live with a loved one that has some form of dementia and it's devastating
2.) I've worked in a nursing home, on a floor with people who have Alzheimer's and Dementia and see what the family members go through
3.) I actually wrote my capstone/thesis on this very disease and the effects music can have as a coping mechanism

All of these combine into the very simple reason why I wanted to read this book, I wanted to see if it gave the impression that I've seen to people who have never been effected by the disease. Short answer, it did. 

It's heart wrenching to read and to be honest there were times when I had tears in my eyes, which was embarrassing because I was reading in a public place. However, it brings to light what family members and the person with the illness go through on a daily basis. When I finished this book all I wanted to do was yell on the top of my lungs to anyone that would listen to read this book and read it now. To understand how much these people need us to support them in any way we can.

Oh and to go donate to the Alzheimer's Association or do a walk for Alzheimer's, something to show that we stand with them.

For more information on Alzheimer's Disease, please visit the link: http://www.alz.org/
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